Live Anxiety Free Now!
From Constricting Feelings, Fear & Doubt To Clarity and Confidence - Without Taking Years in the Process 
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Engage in proven concepts and specific techniques, or tools, to live anxiety free, Now. It doesn't have to take years to experience 
personal freedom! 

My goal with this book, and beyond, is to take you through key questions, concepts, and specific 
technques that will enable you to once and for all, free yourself from the burden and darkness of fear, 
uncertainty, and stress of your anxiety. Imagine finally getting anxiety relief. 

This time tested and proven field of Neuro Linguistic 
Programming, or NLP, enabled me to change my inner world, and thus, experience my outer world in a more empowering manner. 

You can experience anxiety relief by engaging in practical, efficient tools that NLP provides. You go to your subconscious and acknowledge the past thoughts and experiences (or current ones) of 
people, places, and events that trigger those constricting feelings of doubt, fear, and stress. 

Then once identified and acknowledged, you break their hold on you by engaging certain techniques or specific questions. You begin to give yourself a greater range of possibilities, interpretations, and meanings to life's events. 

The results one experiences with NLP in general, and what you'll discover in this book are: 

1) Calming the fear and panic 
2) Knowing and using the key questions to ask 
3) Gaining greater awareness 
4) Allowing yourself to have more emotional 
flexibility, or State Control 

Transform your inner-most thoughts and feelings with the power of NLP, and experience anxiety relief you've been longing for. 

With this first book in the Feel, See & Live Anxiety Free series, you discover the way to release the gripping feelings and can experience 
anxiety relief. You'll engage in techniques and tools that are efficient and powerful, and you can employ them easily and with practicality. 

Here you'll discover more about: 

- The importance of awareness and how to easily determine real anxiety 
- Why your subconscious mind is where we go to make true change 
- The freedom of resolving inner conflict 
- How to stop self-sabotage 
- Changing your inner dialogue and why that's a crucial element to personal freedom 

As you go through this insightful and practical book, apply the techniques with true Purpose and Intention, and you can finally live anxiety free. Feel, see, and experience anxiety relief. Live with clarity and confidence once and for all. 

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Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self Empowerment


Now that we have discussed dealing with the emotions from real anxiety-producing situations, we shall talk about those situations where the anxiety we feel is not rational. Once we understand where these emotions come from, we can learn to deal with them. Unfortunately, self-sabotage is a real problem and can be the root of anxiety and negative feelings for many people. But why do we feel things that aren’t good for us, and why do we let these emotions take over our lives?


            Self-sabotaging thoughts come from your own inner critic, an internalized voice that works against your own best interests. It’s amazing how much stock we put into this voice that works against us. This voice that works against you does so by casting doubt on your abilities, undermining the things you desire most, and even convincing you to be paranoid and suspicious toward the people you care most about. It is easy to see, then, how this voice can lead to anxiety. When we think of something we may like to do, it then causes us to think of everything that could go wrong. We then start to feel anxious about the situation and will avoid it because of these fears.


            But where do these feelings begin? They start when we are children. If someone said something negative to us when we were young, especially someone who we cared deeply for, we began to internalize their message. If a parent called you lazy because you were a daydreamer, then you started to regard yourself as lazy. If you were told that people didn’t like you, maybe by people at school, you started to believe you were unlikeable. If you were told these things over and over, they become part of your inner dialogue. And as you internalized this feeling, it began to influence how you dealt with social situations. If you were repeatedly told that you were unlikeable, then you would naturally be shy and anxious when meeting new people, because you could not believe these people could ever like you. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your anxiety affected these situations, and possibly people didn’t feel comfortable around you because they could sense your feelings. So now you have proof that you are unlikeable, and the cycle continues.


            We can also pick up these feelings from our parents. If our parents hated themselves or saw themselves as a failure, it is easier for us to assimilate these feelings as we grow up. We tend to take on the characteristics of those who raise us, both positive and negative. So, if our parents had anxiety around social situations and avoided them, as we grow up, we may find that we are doing the same thing, without even understanding why we feel this way.


            And like the example above, if we feel that we are unlikeable, we will probably project negative feelings in social situations, which causes people to dislike us.  We probably aren’t even aware that we are doing it! But then we go home and say, “See, they didn’t like me. I must be unlikeable,” without even understanding that we projected emotions that made us unlikeable. Instead, if you had gone into a social situation with a smile on your face, no matter how you feel inside, and really try to be friendly to people, you will come out with a far different result.


            Ok, now when you become aware of your self-sabotaging behaviors, they become easier to change. And when you decide to try something different, you can make changes. There are two techniques that can be used when entering such a situation that can remove your self-sabotaging behaviors. I will explain both of them.


            First, we can practice taking another person you know who is naturally happy and confident around others. You don’t have to know this person personally. You could take a person you look up to, or well-known figure that you follow. Imagine in your mind seeing them interacting naturally, effectively, and confidently. Now remember things that person says. Notice what that person does. Now, see yourself in your mind interacting with people with the same manners, skills, confidence, as that person. See, feel, hear, and sense yourself embodying those traits now.

Note: You must engage your senses while putting yourself in these mental scenes. Actually see yourself and everything that you'd imagine seeing in that room, etc. Imagine hearing anything that is to be heard. Actually hear in your mind what that person you’re using as the example is saying. Notice in your mind that person’s typical demeanor, posture, or gestures.


Now, imagine seeing yourself as that person, or at least with the same qualities. While in a social setting or with a particular person in your mental scenario, you now see yourself in the same posture of excellence and use of casual gestures. You hear yourself communicating effectively with the same natural confidence and sureness. You have that inner feeling of calm and assuredness.


Another exercise is to Act “as if.” Once you have awareness about what you feel on the inside, you can choose to act differently. Emotional flexibility is a great skill to develop. It enables you to have so many more choices in how you choose to respond to people and events. Your old, habitual emotions do not have to rule you. So, even if you feel anxious, you can choose to act as if you feel something else. One way to do this is to smile. If you put a smile on your face, you begin to feel happier. Your mood state will follow your actions. Another way to do this is to change how you hold yourself. Your posture says a lot about you. If you are cowering in the background, bent over and full of fear, you can consciously choose to change how you carry yourself. Even if you don’t feel confident, stand straight up and smile. Notice what a difference this makes in how you feel.

It takes only a slight change in your stance to hold a powerful or more effective posture.

            There is the idiom “State begets physiology, and physiology begets state.” How you act and carry yourself affects your body. So acting as if you feel a certain way can change how you really feel. Once you start acting as if, you will start to change how you feel inside.


Note: Developing greater emotional flexibility puts you back in the driver’s seat. The more choices and range of responses you give yourself with your emotional state, the greater control you have. This actually is one of the ten defining pre-suppositions in NLP.


            We all have a history of sabotaging ourselves in many different situations. Although we cannot change the past and the circumstances that caused us to ingrain these self-sabotaging ideas in our minds, we can change how we react to them. The rest of this book will discuss other techniques to control your anxiety and overcome it so that you can lead a better, more productive, happy life.



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