Engage in proven concepts and specific techniques, or tools,
to live anxiety free, Now. It doesn't have to take years to experience
My goal with this book, and beyond, is to take
you through key questions, concepts, and specific
technques that will enable you to once and for
all, free yourself from the burden and darkness of fear,
uncertainty, and stress of your anxiety. Imagine
finally getting anxiety relief.
This time tested and proven field of Neuro
Programming, or NLP, enabled me to change my
inner world, and thus, experience my outer world in a more empowering manner.
You can experience anxiety relief by engaging in
practical, efficient tools that NLP provides. You go to your subconscious and
acknowledge the past thoughts and experiences (or current ones) of
people, places, and events that trigger those
constricting feelings of doubt, fear, and stress.
Then once identified and acknowledged, you break
their hold on you by engaging certain techniques or specific questions. You
begin to give yourself a greater range of possibilities, interpretations, and
meanings to life's events.
The results one experiences with NLP in general,
and what you'll discover in this book are:
1) Calming the fear and panic
2) Knowing and using the key questions to ask
3) Gaining greater awareness
4) Allowing yourself to have more emotional
flexibility, or State Control
Transform your inner-most thoughts and feelings
with the power of NLP, and experience anxiety relief you've been longing for.
With this first book in the Feel, See & Live
Anxiety Free series, you discover the way to release the gripping feelings and
anxiety relief. You'll engage in techniques and
tools that are efficient and powerful, and you can employ them easily and with
Here you'll discover more about:
- The importance of awareness and how to easily
determine real anxiety
- Why your subconscious mind is where we go to
make true change
- The freedom of resolving inner conflict
- How to stop self-sabotage
- Changing your inner dialogue and why that's a
crucial element to personal freedom
As you go through this insightful and practical
book, apply the techniques with true Purpose and Intention, and you can finally
live anxiety free. Feel, see, and experience anxiety relief. Live with clarity
and confidence once and for all.
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into Self Empowerment
Now that we have discussed
dealing with the emotions from real anxiety-producing situations, we shall talk
about those situations where the anxiety we feel is not rational. Once we
understand where these emotions come from, we can learn to deal with them.
Unfortunately, self-sabotage is a real problem and can be the root of anxiety
and negative feelings for many people. But why do we feel things that aren’t
good for us, and why do we let these emotions take over our lives?
thoughts come from your own inner critic, an internalized voice that works
against your own best interests. It’s amazing how much stock we put into this
voice that works against us. This voice that works against you does so by
casting doubt on your abilities, undermining the things you desire most, and
even convincing you to be paranoid and suspicious toward the people you care
most about. It is easy to see, then, how this voice can lead to anxiety. When
we think of something we may like to do, it then causes us to think of
everything that could go wrong. We then start to feel anxious about the
situation and will avoid it because of these fears.
where do these feelings begin? They start when we are children. If someone said
something negative to us when we were young, especially someone who we cared
deeply for, we began to internalize their message. If a parent called you lazy
because you were a daydreamer, then you started to regard yourself as lazy. If
you were told that people didn’t like you, maybe by people at school, you
started to believe you were unlikeable. If you were told these things over and
over, they become part of your inner dialogue. And as you internalized this
feeling, it began to influence how you dealt with social situations. If you
were repeatedly told that you were unlikeable, then you would naturally be shy
and anxious when meeting new people, because you could not believe these people
could ever like you. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Your anxiety
affected these situations, and possibly people didn’t feel comfortable around
you because they could sense your feelings. So now you have proof that you are
unlikeable, and the cycle continues.
can also pick up these feelings from our parents. If our parents hated
themselves or saw themselves as a failure, it is easier for us to assimilate these
feelings as we grow up. We tend to take on the characteristics of those who
raise us, both positive and negative. So, if our parents had anxiety around
social situations and avoided them, as we grow up, we may find that we are
doing the same thing, without even understanding why we feel this way.
like the example above, if we feel that we are unlikeable, we will probably
project negative feelings in social situations, which causes people to dislike
us. We probably aren’t even aware that
we are doing it! But then we go home and say, “See, they didn’t like me. I must
be unlikeable,” without even understanding that we projected emotions that made
us unlikeable. Instead, if you had gone into a social situation with a smile on
your face, no matter how you feel inside, and really try to be friendly to
people, you will come out with a far different result.
now when you become aware of your self-sabotaging behaviors, they become easier
to change. And when you decide to try something different, you can make
changes. There are two techniques that can be used when entering such a
situation that can remove your self-sabotaging behaviors. I will explain both
we can practice taking another person you know who is naturally happy and
confident around others. You don’t have to know this person personally. You
could take a person you look up to, or well-known figure that you follow.
Imagine in your mind seeing them interacting naturally, effectively, and
confidently. Now remember things that person says. Notice what that person
does. Now, see yourself in your mind interacting with people with the same
manners, skills, confidence, as that person. See, feel, hear, and sense
yourself embodying those traits now.
Note: You must engage your senses
while putting yourself in these mental scenes. Actually see yourself and
everything that you'd imagine seeing in that room, etc. Imagine hearing
anything that is to be heard. Actually hear in your mind what that person
you’re using as the example is saying. Notice in your mind that person’s
typical demeanor, posture, or gestures.
Now, imagine seeing yourself as that person, or at
least with the same qualities. While in a social setting or with a particular
person in your mental scenario, you now see
yourself in the same posture of excellence and use of casual gestures. You hear yourself communicating effectively
with the same natural confidence and sureness. You have that inner feeling of
calm and assuredness.
Another exercise is to Act
“as if.” Once you have awareness about what you feel on the inside, you can
choose to act differently. Emotional flexibility is a great skill to develop.
It enables you to have so many more choices in how you choose to respond to
people and events. Your old, habitual emotions do not have to rule you. So,
even if you feel anxious, you can choose to act as if you feel something else.
One way to do this is to smile. If you put a smile on your face, you begin to
feel happier. Your mood state will follow your actions. Another way to do this
is to change how you hold yourself. Your posture says a lot about you. If you
are cowering in the background, bent over and full of fear, you can consciously
choose to change how you carry yourself. Even if you don’t feel confident,
stand straight up and smile. Notice what a difference this makes in how you
It takes only a slight change in your stance to hold a
powerful or more effective posture.
is the idiom “State begets physiology, and physiology begets state.” How you
act and carry yourself affects your body. So acting as if you feel a certain
way can change how you really feel. Once you start acting as if, you will start
to change how you feel inside.
Note: Developing greater
emotional flexibility puts you back in the driver’s seat. The more choices and
range of responses you give yourself with your emotional state, the greater
control you have. This actually is one of the ten
defining pre-suppositions in NLP.
all have a history of sabotaging ourselves in many different situations.
Although we cannot change the past and the circumstances that caused us to
ingrain these self-sabotaging ideas in our minds, we can change how we react to
them. The rest of this book will discuss other techniques to control your
anxiety and overcome it so that you can lead a better, more productive, happy